Self-Love is such an important practice, yet can be so challenging. I’m frequently reminded of the simple, but essential phrases such as “self-care is health-care” and “you can’t be there/love others, if you’re not there/love yourself first.” These wise words are powerful, so why not instill this practice with children? Can you imagine if self-love came naturally as a child and then valued throughout all years of your life?
At any age, practicing and embodying self-love allows for a higher self-esteem and creativity, more resiliency in challenges, positive and healthy relationships with others, more empathy and compassion for others, and overall a healthier lifestyle. Confidence is something that can come and go at different times, and is presented differently for everyone. Around age 6 or 7 years old though, there is an emphasis and awareness on the self. Therefore, we want to foster this self-love, so it will only continue to flourish through the different stages of development.
My challenge for you, as adults, is to be the role model. Place importance on your own self-love. By role modeling this and displaying the importance, you can set the children up in your lives for this continued practice. Lead by example. Prioritize time for yourself in your busy schedules, demonstrate positive self-talk, celebrate all achievements (no matter how big or small), set boundaries, own your mistakes and how you learn from them, and acknowledge and honor all emotions.
In addition to role modeling this through your own lives, you can also have direct conversations with children from scenarios or books. Some of my favorite children’s books to lead conversations around self-love are: "I Like Myself!" by Karen Beaumont, "We're All Wonders" by R.J. Palacio, "I Am Enough" by Grace Byers, and "The Wonderful Things You Will Be" by Emily Winfield Martin.
With love and light,